This is me, writing my very first blog. I have been thinking about writing one for a long time now.. so here I am, finally doing it. The thing is, expressing my thoughts has never been easy for me. I realized that I need to make an effort. Pardon me if I make mistakes, grammatical or factual, along the way. If you ever agree or disagree with me, do write in a comment... I would love to read your opinion.
I was actually going to write my first blog on a different subject, about expressing oneself. Maybe some other day... No big reason for change of heart, just can't express myself on that subject right now. ;)
I am going to write something about BEING YOURSELF!
This topic has always bewildered me. Why do we find it so hard being oneself, being true to our feelings, being just who you are - even if it means feeling out of place? Why do we keep on adjusting to the people around us? Why do we say 'dude' around certain friends and 'mitraaa' around some others? Why do we fake accents when we speak with native English speakers? Why??
The only answer to this for me, is the human need to be "accepted". The need to feel wanted, liked, loved! To be a part of the crowd, not to be left alone. I must say, I really salute those who follow their own path <O. It is not at all easy to do so. It, in fact, is a sign of one's self confidence.
I hate this cheap mentality of sorts, of not having a mind, guts and confidence to say or do things you want. I do accept I am partly one such person. But I do try to stick out my neck once in a while and say to myself "Hey! WTH are you doing? You got one life, be truthful to yourself! Be who you are... you won't get another chance". We might fail miserably, might never make it to the top of the ladder, may not be friends with everyone in this world but we will still be faithful to a handful and most importantly yourself. It feels so good to breathe the fresh air on your own terms, to be responsible for your decisions, to be the same person on the outside and inside. People might hate us. (Actually they hate the guts!), but why care? As they say, "Those who mind, don't matter; those who matter, don't mind". I really like this sentence.
On a personal note, I too have done things out of peer pressure, followed crowd mentality. But I have always known the limits. Things have changed in the past couple of months. Maybe I took time to mature, but its never too late... is it? Now a days, I feel as if I have woken up from someone else s dream and started living my own. I don't care how much money I make, or what my status in the (fake) society is, or what people think of me. All I want to do in life the a job that I love. I need that feeling of mental satisfaction, peace, when I look back at my life 30-40 years from now.
'Judging' is one other thing I don't get about people. Why do people make up opinions and just assume things? I understand that first impression does matter but that does not mean we shouldn't be open minded about the fact that it might be wrong. We make judgments about some celebrity, lesser known acquaintance etc. so easily, even though we don't know a whole lot about them. Opinions and judgments are fine when we declare that those are just our own and do not expect others to agree with them. Other wise, such opinions, if held by dominating personalities, leads to 'crowd mentality' which in the very essence is the cause for the loss of individual thinking and beliefs. I, myself, feel disappointed when people judge my silent demeanor as a sign of gullibility and lack of confidence. Actually, silence is what makes me feel stronger... I don't know how, but it works for me...
Sometimes we need to peek inside ourselves to better understand others.
phuff... mazak mazak main bahut likh diya!
May God(!) give strength to all, to be themselves!
I was actually going to write my first blog on a different subject, about expressing oneself. Maybe some other day... No big reason for change of heart, just can't express myself on that subject right now. ;)
I am going to write something about BEING YOURSELF!
This topic has always bewildered me. Why do we find it so hard being oneself, being true to our feelings, being just who you are - even if it means feeling out of place? Why do we keep on adjusting to the people around us? Why do we say 'dude' around certain friends and 'mitraaa' around some others? Why do we fake accents when we speak with native English speakers? Why??
The only answer to this for me, is the human need to be "accepted". The need to feel wanted, liked, loved! To be a part of the crowd, not to be left alone. I must say, I really salute those who follow their own path <O. It is not at all easy to do so. It, in fact, is a sign of one's self confidence.
I hate this cheap mentality of sorts, of not having a mind, guts and confidence to say or do things you want. I do accept I am partly one such person. But I do try to stick out my neck once in a while and say to myself "Hey! WTH are you doing? You got one life, be truthful to yourself! Be who you are... you won't get another chance". We might fail miserably, might never make it to the top of the ladder, may not be friends with everyone in this world but we will still be faithful to a handful and most importantly yourself. It feels so good to breathe the fresh air on your own terms, to be responsible for your decisions, to be the same person on the outside and inside. People might hate us. (Actually they hate the guts!), but why care? As they say, "Those who mind, don't matter; those who matter, don't mind". I really like this sentence.
The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.
- Friedrich Nietzsche
On a personal note, I too have done things out of peer pressure, followed crowd mentality. But I have always known the limits. Things have changed in the past couple of months. Maybe I took time to mature, but its never too late... is it? Now a days, I feel as if I have woken up from someone else s dream and started living my own. I don't care how much money I make, or what my status in the (fake) society is, or what people think of me. All I want to do in life the a job that I love. I need that feeling of mental satisfaction, peace, when I look back at my life 30-40 years from now.
'Judging' is one other thing I don't get about people. Why do people make up opinions and just assume things? I understand that first impression does matter but that does not mean we shouldn't be open minded about the fact that it might be wrong. We make judgments about some celebrity, lesser known acquaintance etc. so easily, even though we don't know a whole lot about them. Opinions and judgments are fine when we declare that those are just our own and do not expect others to agree with them. Other wise, such opinions, if held by dominating personalities, leads to 'crowd mentality' which in the very essence is the cause for the loss of individual thinking and beliefs. I, myself, feel disappointed when people judge my silent demeanor as a sign of gullibility and lack of confidence. Actually, silence is what makes me feel stronger... I don't know how, but it works for me...
Treat with utmost respect your power of forming opinions, for this power alone guards you against making assumptions that are contrary to nature and judgments that overflow the rules of reason.
- Marcus Aurelius
Sometimes we need to peek inside ourselves to better understand others.
phuff... mazak mazak main bahut likh diya!
May God(!) give strength to all, to be themselves!
